The Clarity Cleanse

“Clarity is what allows us to take from any experience the lessons we can use—those elements that help us learn, grow, and expand our consciousness. Then we discard the rest, continually clearing our cup of all the fear, resentment, judgment, sadness, and other bits and pieces that won’t serve us moving forward. In order to process our thoughts and feelings fully and effectively, we must first be able to contain them. This is the opposite of what most of us instinctively do with uncomfortable or unhappy feelings, which is to ignore, dismiss, or try to change or control them. Containing means being able to gather and hold what we’re feeling, being present with it so that we consciously experience it in a nonjudgmental and empathic way. As we process it in this way, we enable it to pass through us.”

“With clarify on your side, you’ll find yourself more prepared for whatever life may throw at you. You’ll better enjoy the ups and more easily handle the downs. You’ll be more resilient, and more powerful, and better able to steer your life in the direction you want to go.”

“Interesting concept about parenting: “Our parents, and especially our mothers, are our primary teachers in the art of emotional containment, but if they haven’t mastered it for themselves their children may never learn it. In this case, we can learn the process of self-parenting. In any situation, when we self-parent, we see and accept a situation as it exists, and then work with it to achieve a positive outcome, learning what we can from the experience along the way. This doesn’t mean we have to be happy about what’s happening or that we allow others to avoid responsibility for their part. We take control of how we process and respond to the experience, taking from it what we can use to move us forward and discarding anything that might keep us stuck.”